10 keys to choosing a life partner

ok.. i'm back from the seminar.. woke up late today!!! ah!!! suppose to wake up at 7am but snooze the alarm clock to 8am... -_-

so anyway, took a cab and went to St John's St Margaret's Church and yea.. i was not late... haha

ok.. anyway, i think i've learnt quite a fair bit today...

the seminar is "10 keys to choosing a life partner" i think this post would be loooooooooooooong la.. but i wanna share ma my knowledge ma.. so ya...

1st key: The wisdom of seeking counsel

ok.. i shall explain... its more of seeking views from others.. be it from your parents or pastors.. this is because our emotions blind our better judgement of a person when we are in love... like for instance.. if ur guy/gal is short tempered and keeps scolding vulgarities, you might think " wow!!! so much character!!! i like~" haha.. ya la.. along that line la...

2nd key:The principle of being equally yoked

this means being compatible spiritually... and it does not mean going for every cell or seminar organised by the church.. and a cell group leader marrying another cell group leader. no.. ts not.. its about having the same spiritual devotion and passion.

3rd key: The beauty of purity

it means respecting yourself and your future spouse by preserving your virginity.. on interesting thing the pastor brought up was that men are turned on by what they see while girls are turned on by what they hear. However, both are turned on by touch... so ya... we must control ourselves especially during courtships so as to not compromise our purity for something which is just for pure pleasure..

4th key:The principle of shared inheritance

this means we choose the person who is to share our destiny. this brings me to the 3Ms

Master
it means knowing who your master is.. in this case, its God

Mission
once we know who our master is, next is finding our mission.. that is our reason for being on this very earth. why are we put on this earth? what does God want me to do?

Mate
after establishing your mission, then only are we ready to look for a mate. this is because without knowing the reason of your existence on earth, you will forever be going with the flow and not defining the purpose in your life. so how can you expect to find a mate when you do not even know what is your mission?

5th key: The presence of willingness

the thing that we always ask is " Does God have a perfect choice for me?" and we end up waiting.. thinking God will bring the person to us. no... we have to be proactive... not like desperate of course... can you imagine that you just sit and wait for the person while your future partner also has the same thinking and sits there to wait for you, you both will never meet!!! so be proactive in your search. there is also something i want to add.. there is no perfect one. but when we marry, we seek to be the perfect one for our spouse.

6th key: The key of prayer

a prayer is very powerful. it can heal and bring happiness. so it is also important to pray about choosing a right partner.

7th key: The important virtue of kindness

ok... there are certain questions you have to ask...
does he handle his money well?
does he tell the truth?
is he responsible?
do you liek his friends?
does he relate well with family?
is he kind?

you might be thinking why you have to ask the questions... because what you see is what you get...

8th key: The need for family blessings

marriage is not only a union of two individuals... but also two families. so there is definately a need for family blessings!

9th key: The principle of timing

if you are single, GREAT!!! CELEBRATE! ok.. you might think i'm crazy... but if you trust in God's timing, you'll know that actually God is preparing your future partner for you and vice versa.. so make full use of the "Season of Singlehood"!!! oh ya.. and one more thing, the older you are, the more you are able to make a better choice as you would be more mature.

10th key: The principle of the Well

ok.. this is more of a biblical term. in the bible, Jacob met his future wife Rachel at the well... so did Moses.. and some other people whom i... eh.. forgot..
okok.. so where is the well? no.. you don't have to literially go to a well... but think abt it.. in the olden days, the well was a place where pple gathered and rest, fellowship with one another.. most importantly, this was where the babes would appear.. haha.. ok la... cause women were the ones who drew water. so this well refers to...................... THE CHURCH! yup... so this principle means that while we go to church, we should rest and wait. but that does not mean that we should all go to church just to find that partner cause it is wrong.. so ya...

wanna know more? hehe.. bribe me!!! whaha.. cause i'm lazy to type the rest... and i think you've read enough.. so i shall save for next time! =)